Dating rules in other countries
Growing up, I always assumed that I lacked the gene that made Indians of the opposite sex appealing to me.They seemed immature, unexciting, and too close to home to be attractive.A couple of years ago, I fell hard for a dark-haired Swedish drummer who was in a metal band called Obligatory Torture.(In its native form, Obligatorisk Tortyr, it sounded kind of sexy.) He had a tattoo, nose and tongue piercings, and pronounced "yogurt" like it began with a "j."As a first-generation Indian-American, I had a very different background from the Swede, which made us endlessly exotic to each other.To older readers, the scenario above may have at least a vague, distant familiarity.But to younger readers, it may be utterly foreign, antiquated and unrealistic—like viewing a scene from an old black-and-white film in a world accustomed to the rapid-fire images of a high-definition action movie.He was deeply interested in my culture—and I was deeply interested in the fact that he was about as far away from being Indian as I could get.But we had little in common; in fact, our shared interests stopped at a love of the Rolling Stones (which, I quickly discovered, is not the key to lasting love).
This may be repeated on a regular basis, and could eventually lead to courtship and marriage as the two get to know one another through hours of conversation, spread over months.Instead, in the 21st century, technology is the way to date.Ask any 20-something and he or she has probably signed up for any number of smartphone apps or online dating sites.These people will have dates on a regular basis, and they may or may not be having sexual relations.This period of courtship is sometimes seen as a precursor to engagement or marriage.
With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person.